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Dear Abby

Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: My niece, "Amelia," was a straight-A student in high school. She took advanced placement courses from 10th grade through 12th and was in all honors classes. She talked about going into the medical field after she got her college degree. Before starting college she wanted to take a year off and just live life because she'd had so many college-level courses almost her entire high school life.

My sister (her mother) and I talk every day. Amelia has left home now and returned to their home state of Ohio because she loved it there when she was younger. She hasn't decided what she wants to go to school for and thinks she can afford to attend college full-time, have an apartment on her own and pay for everything she needs. No matter how many times my sister tells her she needs to move back home and attend college here so she can finish her education, Amelia still seems to think she can do it all. What can we do to make this girl realize life will be easier at home and with support? -- AUNT WHO CARES IN THE SOUTH

DEAR AUNT: Amelia may be suffering from burnout, which is why she wants a gap year before starting college. Because she's an adult now, she may also want some freedom that she can't have if she lives at home. The more your sister pressures her, the more Amelia will dig her heels in, so the matter should be put on the back burner for now. When the subject is raised again, it should be in a non-confrontational manner -- with a spreadsheet handy so your niece can show her mother how she plans to finance her new lifestyle. Amelia is a high achiever. Give her credit for intelligence.

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