DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. He has several female friends I have met and like very much. However, one of them texts him every day, even while we are together. She also sends Facebook messages and sometimes calls him at work.
This woman is married with a family of her own, but she seems to be obsessed with my boyfriend. I have expressed my concern about her behavior and told my boyfriend that while I trust him completely, I feel she is overly emotionally attached to him, and what she's doing is disrespectful to our relationship as well as her own. How can I make him understand that they can still be friends, but he needs to set some boundaries? -- FED UP IN NEW YORK
DEAR FED UP: Your boyfriend is allowed to be friends with anyone he wishes. However, because you think the attention he's receiving from this woman infringes on your time with him, you should say that to him.
DEAR ABBY: I volunteer at a county no-kill animal shelter. I love doing the work and helping people find a pet that's right for them, if I can.
Every week, people come in looking for a lost pet. "What did he look like?" "How old was she?" And then the burning question, "Was your pet microchipped?" Often -- too often -- the answer is "No."
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Please remind your readers that if they care about Buddy or Fluffy and love them and consider them family, to PLEASE have them microchipped. Any veterinarian's office can do it. A county shelter can do it, too. It's not expensive. -- ANIMAL LOVER IN UTAH
DEAR ANIMAL LOVER: I'm glad you wrote. I hope my animal-guardian readers will heed your advice. If pets are microchipped, it increases the odds of them being recovered.
DEAR ABBY: Can you please explain the guidelines for reciprocating invitations? We have invited the "Smiths" to our home three times. Each time they said they were busy and would be for several weeks, so we stopped extending invitations. Then they had us over, and we had a really good time. This week I tried to reciprocate and, again, they are busy. Should I keep trying? Or is this a signal that the Smiths don't want to come to us for whatever reason? -- GOOD TIMES IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR GOOD TIMES: No rule of etiquette requires you to continue trying to coax this couple to your home. After three refusals, it's reasonable to conclude that -- for whatever reason -- they prefer to do the entertaining.