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Dear Abby: Dad's sleep 'advice' embarrasses teenage daughter

Dear Abby: Dad's sleep 'advice' embarrasses teenage daughter

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Dear Abby

Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: My 16-year-old daughter, "Lily," came home from her father's very upset. She has trouble sleeping, and I have been taking her to the doctor for tests. Her father told her not to tell anyone, handed her a vibrator and told her that an orgasm will help her sleep. Lily was shocked and embarrassed that he would suggest such a thing and asked me if she could throw it away.

She no longer wants to go to his house but wants me to be the one to tell him. I'm furious that he would use such poor judgment with his 16-year-old daughter. He feels he has an open relationship with her and that I am a prude. I feel what he did was extremely inappropriate, but I'm not sure how to handle it. -- OVERSTEPPED BOUNDARIES

DEAR OVERSTEPPED BOUNDARIES: Speak up! I agree that what Lily's father did was inappropriate. Further, he embarrassed his daughter, and he owes her an apology. At 16, if she no longer wants to go to his home, she should not be forced to. The attorney who handled your divorce can make that clear to him.

P.S. If Lily wants to throw her father's "gift" away, reassure her that it's her privilege.

These pets have just come out of surgery and make it very clear that their anaesthetic has not worn off yet! The dogs and cats are not looking their most dignified as the drugs mean they're perfectly comfortable with their noses pressed up against the cage. One dogs tail is vibrating frantically and a cat has its tongue out as they recover after their procedures at a vet clinic in Carrollton, Texas, USA. Briley said: "I knew this was absolutely normal so I just thought it was funny. "I made it during my lunch break because I saw the kitty in the first clip and thought she was so cute it just gave me the idea. I was shocked how many views it got." Her clip now has over 13.4 million views and brought her over 58,000 followers.

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 28 years to the perfect man. We married when I was 20 and have three grown children. There are stresses in our life, but they are mostly related to extended family. We never argue. We truly have an ideal marriage.

I work outside the home and have become "friends" with a guy there. I enjoy texting and talking with him. He's single, and he makes jokes and asks me if I'm "still married." I would never cheat on my husband, who does give me a lot of attention. So why do I do this? -- GUILTY IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR GUILTY: Because you are human -- and the attention you are receiving is flattering. You didn't mention whether your husband is aware of the flirtation. If he isn't, that may be the reason you feel guilty.

I think it's time to clue your husband in. If you do, he may not object. However, if he is threatened, in the interest of keeping your perfect marriage perfect, let this friend know that from now on your communications will have to be strictly business.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.


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