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Connecting with teens will impact new relationships

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Dear Abby

Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: After I ended a 20-year marriage, I took some time off from relationships and am now back in the dating world. My ex-husband and I never had children.

I recently met a man with two teenagers. He says I am "detached" from children. I am not detached! I just never had experience with them. How do I proceed with this relationship since his kids are very dear to him? -- NOT DETACHED

DEAR NOT DETACHED: This man's offspring are no longer "children." They are teenagers, and teens can be complicated. Reach out to them the way you would anyone of any age. Be friendly and show them you are interested in them. If they have a mother in the picture, do not try to "mother" them. See if you share any common interests (sports, music, fashion, etc.), resist the urge to lecture them, and be a good listener.

After the Derek Chauvin verdict, the spotlight shifted to the video that showed the interaction between Chauvin and George Floyd. Here's why: the initial police report that was released the day after Floyd died went viral. People criticized the department for leaving out details like what exactly caused Floyd to suffer medical distress. It did not mention Chauvin's knee on top of Floyd for more than 9 minutes.The praise is pouring in from all over for Darnella Frazier, the teen who filmed the killing, which turned out to be key evidence in this trial. She also testified during the trial.Last night, Frazier posted on social media sharing her relief. She says she cried and was very anxious but was happy justice was served.Floyd's family said they were grateful for what she did."The sad thing is that if it wasn't been for that 17-year-old girl, Darnella, it would've been another Black man that was killed by the police," said George Floyd's aunt Angela Harrelson. "And we wouldn't have never had a story. We wouldn't be here today talking."

DEAR ABBY: Back around 1987, a girl asked me to take her to her high school prom. I was several years older, didn't know her well and wanted to say no but couldn't. In the end I stood her up. I don't even remember her name. She worked at a grocery store with my brother.

That was more than 30 years ago. I am married now and have two fine children. I was recently asked what my biggest regret is, and I said standing her up. Not one week has gone by in the last 30 years that I haven't thought about her and wished I could find her and tell her how truly sorry I am.

It's funny. Although I can't remember her name, there's no one from my past that I have thought about more than her. I would give anything to find her and apologize. It haunts me. Any suggestions? -- BIGGEST REGRET IN THE SOUTH

DEAR BIGGEST REGRET: What you did to that girl was brutal. Because it's not possible for you to directly offer the apology she deserves, concentrate harder on the present and always try to treat everyone with kindness and sensitivity.

DEAR ABBY: I usually send special occasion flowers to my wife at work. I was wondering if it could make some co-workers who do not receive flowers from their partner or husband feel neglected, and worse, cause friction between them and my wife. If you feel this could be a potential problem, I can have the flowers delivered to our home. -- EXCLUDED IN FLORIDA

DEAR EXCLUDED: If receiving flowers at her job has caused any tension in the past, you probably would have heard about it. However, you should ask your wife what she would prefer because she may enjoy the public gesture of husbandly love.


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