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DEAR ABBY: When I was 70, I started taking drama classes twice a week (I still do). My wife was against it and insisted that because none of our friends or relatives were doing it, neither should I. As a result, I suggested we live apart. I bought a small apartment and live alone. We see each other regularly, go to the cinema, the theater, visiting friends, vacation, etc.

Every now and then she raises the topic again, saying she feels "betrayed, offended, abandoned" and suggests we stop seeing each other for two to three days "so she can recover from the pain I inflict on her."

I don't think I am doing anything wrong here. I'm not cheating on her, and she knows that and doesn't accuse me explicitly. I think she is jealous and distrustful because the women taking the classes are beautiful and not because of anything I have done. What do you think? -- FRUSTRATED IN BULGARIA

DEAR FRUSTRATED: What I think is, not having heard your wife's side of it from her, your insight may be correct. However, before accepting the guilt trip she is laying on you, remember that since you moved out she hasn't invited you to move back in.

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DEAR ABBY: My older brother and I are eight years apart. I am in my mid-20s, and he is in his early 30s. Our personalities and outlook on life are completely opposite. We have different fathers but grew up in the same household, so naturally, we went to the same outings together until he was a teenager and we took different paths.

Looking at him now, I see he is an angry and burdened person compared to his early teenage years, even his 20s. He has always had two serious interests, science and poetry. Although he loved them while he attended school, he no longer has the same fire in his belly. In fact, there's no pep in his step about anything, just frustration. How can I lift his spirits without pressuring him? -- LIGHTING THE FIRE

DEAR LIGHTING: Could it be your brother's behavior is simply that of a man who has reached his 30s, has matured and is more of a realist than he was in his early teens? Consider telling him you have noticed his personality has changed from when he was younger -- that he seems angry, burdened and frustrated. Then LISTEN. He may or may not be depressed. If, after hearing him out, you are still concerned, suggest he do something about what's bothering him by talking with a counselor.

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